Let the No’s Go

by admin on March 9, 2010

Professional woman saying no to an ask

What do you do when someone opts out?

Many professional women in my life have been asking the same question over the last couple of weeks:

What if someone unsubscribes from my list?

The tone of their questions is usually full of fear, like, “Oh my gosh. Some teeny percentage of my list of contacts has decided not to get info from me anymore!” Now I know we all treat each of our contacts with the utmost respect and love, and deliver seriously great service. We feel close to each one of our contacts, like our list is one big family. If one of our contacts opts out of our list, it’s like we’ve lost one of our own.

My good friend and mentor, Nancy Marmolejo over at Viva Visibility, blogged about this very issue a couple of weeks ago:  I Survived a List Purge (You Can Too).  This is what got me thinking about this topic.

Then, I started hearing from a whole bunch of women entrepreneurs:

“I had one person unsubscribe!”

“One of my contacts said they were not interested.”

“What do I do if someone opts out?”

Like Nancy, I say, “Let ‘em go!” Focus on those who have made the conscious decision to stay on your list. You will likely never really know why the one person left your list, so don’t waste energy on tracking them down, finding out why they left, and what you can do to get them back. Use that same energy to thank those who have decided to stay, or offer them some bonus piece of information, or just say hi.

I’d love to hear how you, and the professional women you know, feel when one of your contacts opts out. Do you take it personally? Or do you re-focus on the vast majority of your “family” that’s still at home?

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Bourn Creative: Killer SEO Strategies

by admin on March 8, 2010

I’m just finishing up a teleseminar with Jennifer Bourn of Bourn Creative, as part of Gina Bell’s List Attraction Week series.

This call was chock full of information about best ways to make sure your web pages and blog posts hit high in search rankings. If you have the chance to listen to Jennifer, I highly recommend you do so. Head on over to her web site and grab her white paper. That’s Bourn Creative:  Killer SEO Strategies.

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International Women’s Day: Celebrate Yourself

March 8, 2010

How appropriate that Kathryn Bigelow won the Oscar last night! Today is International Women’s Day.
Wondering how you might celebrate this day? Which woman is worthy of your respect and attention today? How about YOU? Yes, you. Today of all days, you should be able to put yourself first. Tell people you’re celebrating a holiday. Go [...]

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March Forth!

March 4, 2010

Today is March 4th. Which is a homonym for March Forth! Let me make an argument for doing just that.
Awhile back I met a friend and colleague for lunch. We were going to continue a previous discussion about how we might work together. I thought I was so prepared. I had outlined a really cool [...]

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Turn On Your Personal Power

March 3, 2010

Why does power have such a bad rep, especially for women? Some people think it means controlling others, others believe it leads to corruption, still others shy away from the attention that comes when it’s used.
I like to focus on the positives of power:
It can get you from one place to another.
It makes things glow.
It [...]

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Women’s History Month: Word of the Day

March 2, 2010

OK, so there really is not a connection between Women’s History Month and a word of the day. But I came across the following while I was cleaning out some old writings.
Word of the day: virago. One definition is “noisy, scolding or domineering woman”; another is “large, strong, courageous woman”. Guess which one’s my [...]

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Frightened by the New Economy?

February 23, 2010

When Oliver asked for more, the warden gave him more anger. He should have been more specific.

We hear it all the time, from all sorts of places.
You can’t do that in the new economy.
You can’t expect that in the new economy.
That just can’t happen in the new economy.
So many people are waiting until the new [...]

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You Don’t Need Money to Support Yourself

February 22, 2010

Got your attention, didn’t I?
Of course you need money to support yourself (and anyone else who is depending on you). However you don’t need money to support your Self.
Many of us who ask for money on a regular basis can feel alone:  the solopreneur starting her company, the consultant wanting to grow her business, the [...]

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Do You Need a Super Bowl Ad?

February 8, 2010

Following our discussion of the words we use to ask for money…
Some of your discomfort around asking for money may come out of the words you’re using. Being less than direct can make you feel like you’re trying to put one over on the person on the other side of the table. You may also [...]

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What Are You Asking For?

February 4, 2010

Now, those of you that know me well may have read the title of this post with a New Yawk accent, and a slightly obnoxious attitude. Like, “Whaddya askin’ for?” And expecting it to be followed closely by, “Who wants to know?” You would be wrong.
I simply mean to get you to think about exactly [...]

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