Wait, Wait! Don’t Wait…

How often have you said to yourself, “Oh, that will take too long”? “Unused creativity is not benign. It lives within us until it’s expressed, neglected to death, or suffocated by resentment and fear.” (Brené Brown, The Gifts of Imperfection) Yeah, that one socked me in the gut, too. Unused creativity is not benign. It festers. Bottom line:  there is no way for a creative person to be truly happy without expressing her creativity. “OK,” you say, “but I need to eat. And eating takes moolah.” I get it. But let me ask you this: Aren’t you tired of people talking about your cute vanity project/hobby like they’re patting you on the head? Just think about how you could make them eat those words if you took the effort you’re currently putting into feeling guilty about even thinking you could be a successful creative entrepreneur and put it towards actually BEING a successful creative entrepreneur. Being creative feeds your soul; it can and should feed your belly too. Do you have a nagging feeling about your creative work? Does it call to you in the middle of the night—or in the middle of your umpteenth boring meeting of the day? Well, you’d better listen to it, because IT’S NEVER GOING TO SHUT UP. Still thinking it would take too long? Well, I’ve said that plenty of times. Spending 2-3 years to start my ideal business? That would have taken too long. Five years after I said that I looked back:  “Crap. If I had started that biz back then, I’d be up and running and totally rocking it by now.”...

Your All-Star Team

Next week is Major League Baseball’s All-Star game. Which got me thinking about who I’d have on my own personal all-star team. My players all support me in some way, and make my life easier. I couldn’t do business without any of them. And now, my starting lineup… 1. Family: My family leads off, because I would be nowhere without them. The unwavering support of my husband, my mom’s unconditional love and my daughter’s ridiculous sense of humor keep me going when nothing else can. 2. UpTo: I’ve found this free calendar app so easy to use on my computer, iPhone, wherever. You can coordinate multiple personal calendars, plus you can easily follow other calendars–I follow stuff like Game of Thrones and New York Football Giants–and add those events to your calendar. 3. iCloud: I store files, photos and other stuff here. If you are not a Mac user, something like Dropbox works, but is not as seamless. 4. Hootsuite: This groovy app lets you post to multiple social media accounts at once. Easy peasy! 5. MailChimp: I have tried a bunch of email/list managers, and MailChimp’s my fave. I am a visual girl, and MailChimp’s graphic interface is terrific. I also dig their quick and easy form creation process. 6. Evernote: I am new to the Evernote fan club, and I kick myself for not joining up sooner. I have a bunch of notebooks going, and they are always with me (on my iPhone, computer, web, wherever!). Bonus: you can write directly on stuff!!! 7. Canva: I cannot say enough about Canva. A web-based graphic design service, with tons (and I...

Are You Afraid of Success?

Are you afraid of success? What the heck? Who would be afraid of success? Of course I’m not afraid of success! Well then, have you ever done any of the following? Backed out of an important speaking engagement at the last minute Missed an article deadline Left a high-profile potential client hanging because you couldn’t figure out the right way to respond Didn’t even apply for/ask about an incredible opportunity because you probably wouldn’t get it anyway If you said “yes” to any of the items above, then you just might be afraid of success. But, you ask again, why would anyone be afraid of success? Here are the reasons I’ve heard and seen most often: “I couldn’t handle a job that big.” So what? Hire some help. “So-and-so deserves it more.” Really? Who deserves success more than you? “My business is too new. I haven’t been doing this long enough.” Well, if you’re on to a great idea, then be prepared for folks to want it. “I couldn’t possibly hold my own with {Name Your Favorite Expert/Role Model} on the same stage.” Oh honey, I bet you can. Notice that all of these reasons have to do with your own perception of the situation, not with external factors impacting your ability to deliver. Most of the time you simply don’t realize you are sabotaging your own success before you even give it a chance. How do you get over yourself? Starting seeing yourself as a leader. Yep, it’s as simple as that. Starting seeing yourself as a leader, and you’ll start acting like one. Which includes no longer...

I’m Finally Going to B-School

I am finally going to b-school. Yes, you read that right. It’s been several years since I’ve been a student, but I’ve decided to ask for what I want–an incredibly focused and successful business. So I’ve signed up for Marie Forleo’s B-School. I’ve followed Marie for many years, and love her attitude, focus and generosity. Plus she’s wicked smart. For the next eight weeks I’ll be honing my skills and getting ready for a big shift in what I offer you here at How To Ask For Money. Stay...