International Women’s Day: Celebrate Yourself

How appropriate that Kathryn Bigelow won the Oscar last night! Today is International Women’s Day. Wondering how you might celebrate this day? Which woman is worthy of your respect and attention today? How about YOU? Yes, you. Today of all days, you should be able to put yourself first. Tell people you’re celebrating a holiday. Go ahead, be selfish. I started thinking about this topic during a discussion of “What You Wish You Knew Then”. People were talking about the differences in their lives once they discovered that what makes them happy is just as important as what makes other people happy. It really is true…if you are not happy, then it’s likely that no one around you is happy. Sounds self-centered to some people, especially women, but it’s not. And it is not even close to Gordon Gecko’s philosophy of “Greed is good.” The late Thomas Leonard, the founder of Coach University, said, “When you become truly selfish, you’ll have the extra reserves needed to really care about—and be generous with—others.” Think about it. When you truly take care of yourself, only then can you have the reserves necessary to be generous with others. How many of us have this backwards? We take care of everyone (and everything) else, and leave ourselves for last. How can we even think about being generous with what we don’t have to give? For many of us, this phenomenon is a significant contributor to our stress levels. And we’re accomplishing great things in spite of our stress levels, so what’s wrong with that? The obvious answer is burnout. We see it all...